Life changes the day you realise you're not going to live forever, said Max Bolka at a focus session on the final day of 2018 MDRT Annual Meeting.
Ideally, you should spend your time doing things that matter, with people who matter to you. So pick something that excites you. If it doesn’t pull you out of bed in the morning, then he suggests you you stay in bed until you come up with something that does because life is too short to go through it dabbling half-heartedly.
“Because the truth is, you have the power to do anything, go anywhere, and be anyone you want,” he said. In the book “As A Man Thinketh”, James Allen states, “Circumstance does not make the man; it merely reveals his thoughts to himself.” Any so-called “problem” is just an opportunity to re-create yourself, to adjust your sails.
It operates on the principle that what you put your attention on grows stronger in your life, precisely because your attention is helping to create it. In the financial world, for example, we say something appreciates when it grows in value. Similarly, when we appreciate something nonfinancial in our life, it too grows in value.
This principle works both in the positive and negative sense. However, most people just focus on those things they don’t have, instead of being grateful for those things they do have. So what grows more in their life? Those things they didn’t want in the first place.
Thoughts carry energy. Positive thoughts carry positive energy, and negative thoughts carry negative energy. If you want to have unlimited energy, the place to start is with your thoughts.
For those who wish to change their life, he said it’s free, easy, and fast - don’t gossip, don’t criticise, and don’t complain. People like to do business with happy people. Be that happy person other people like to do business with.
“All we’re doing here is changing a habit, but a habit that has infinite implications for your health, wealth, and well-being in all areas of life. Instead of expending negative energy avoiding situations and conflict, expand your energy and sphere of influence by staying centered and, when given a choice, choosing positive thoughts. Commit to this for 30 days to establish a new habit, and tell me if it doesn’t change your entire life,” he said.